Talking to women and talking to girls is not an easy thing to do. It requires both self confidence and a decent arsenal of conversation starters and questions in your back pocket so you can keep the conversation going. I’m going to list the top 5 questions or types of questions that allow you show interest in the woman and keep her interested in you.
Try to ask more how, why and overall open ended questions. Stray away from the when did you get here or where do you live. Those questions are closed ended and typically don’t get you anywhere. You can ask those questions a maximum of two times in the beginning of the conversation. If you keep asking closed ended questions, you’ll bore her really quickly.
What had you come to this location? This is a good question to ask because it’s open ended, gets her talking about the joint, and gives you some ammunition for follow up questions and responses. Your follow up could be about other good spots to go to or even telling her the bartenders here normally do a great job.
Comment on something she’s wearing. You can simply talk about her shoes, her shirt, and even her bag. If you comment on her bag and you’re trying to get her number, don’t come across as feminine. If it were me, I’d keep it simple and talk about her shirt or her shoes.
Asking her about her job and what she does is a classic one. The key is not the question. The key is the follow up. Good follow up questions are what had you go into that line of work and what are you trying to do long term. You don’t want to come across as a corn ball or someone who is too serious when you both are at a club and lounge trying to escape the normal hustle and bustle, but every once in a while it’s OK to bring work up.
My favorite is to make fun of her a little bit. Not to say bad things about her but after you’ve built a little repoire you can actually joke with her in a way that’s innocent and funny. It also puts the power in your hands because when that happens she’s looking to gain more of your approval. There are more points of this in others sections of the site.
